Growing up

The innocence of childhood allows you to conquer fear, shame, danger, superficiality, and the ugly side of life. As a child, all that mattered was, "I wonder what Mom packed for lunch today," "I can't wait to play with Alison today during recess,"and "I want to plant a cherry tree in my backyard because of the book I read today in school!". The simplicity of a child's mind is so pure, bliss and free.

I remember everyday after school my little brother and I would always have so many games and activities we wanted to do. The endless list consisted of racing on our bikes on our cul-de-sac street, drawing our own hopscotch until the chalks covered our hands, pretending to own a restaurant called "The Apple Cafe", building unique houses from Legos, throwing mini water balloons in our spacious backyard, and ending the day with a delicious home cooked Indonesian meal by our mom.

Now as I slowly "grow up", I'm beginning to understand and appreciate all the sacrifices my parents have made for my brother and I.  I did not realize all the nitty gritty tasks my parents needed to do in order for life to go on such as paying the bills on time, choosing from a variety of insurance companies, selecting the right car for the family, commuting to work in traffic, saving up money so we can go on vacation and live a comfortable life. These necessities are behind the scene works that children are shielded from for a good reason.

A few lessons I've learned as I leave my childhood behind are :

1) Be extremely thankful for everything in your life. Nothing comes easy.

2) Be persistent and don't give up on important things. You don't know until you've given it your all.

3) Save, save, save your $$$! In the materialistic world we live in, the temptation so spend is everywhere. But spending on only what's necessary will take you a long way.

4) Keep your true, genuine friends close and always stay in touch with them. Distance yourself from the superficial acquaintances that bring negative energy.

5) Read as many books as you can. Reading empowers you.

6) Don't be afraid to ask. If you want something, you need to go after it yourself. Independence is the key to success.